I just read a debate titled Is Extreme Parenting Effective? In contemporary times, strict parenting has to do with anxieties created by this environment. There's an exam in China that has been known to push students to suicide. The ultimate goal is to produce adults who are independent and self directed. Parents spend a lot of time thinking about other parents that aren't involved in the lives of their kids and how that child can be a failure because of how they were parented.
They feel a kid can't be successful unless the parents is managing every moment and hovering over everything that happens in their life with the set goals being college and small subset of careers. When kids come home from school the first thing their parents ask about is their homework, grades, and test. From that we see that our approval, love, and worth comes from A's. After pushing ourselves in school and wondering if we can get into a good college with the grades we have now, we question if this life will ever turn out to be worth it. Why do parents of today have way higher expectations compared to when they were growing up? Do you think extreme parenting is effective?
-Ahliyah Curry
I think parents of today have way higher expectations because they didn't have all the opportunities we have today. They don't want us to take their path (unless your parents are in college) because they feel you could have a better life. The high expectations is really just trying to help us because our parents want a better life for us.
ReplyDeleteFor your other question, extreme parenting is not effective. A type of extreme parenting is called authoritarian and it sets up for high demands and low response. In psychology, this can be the worst type of parenting because the child isn't making any decisions on their own, thus hurting their decision making later in life. The best way to parent is being authoritative. This is where the parents punish or talk to the kid with reason, and both child and parent reason out to an agreement. That is much more effective than extreme parenting.
I believe parents have higher expectations for their children than themselves, because today we live in world where we are given many opportunities to succeed in all sorts of professions. Our parents had limited opportunities in their life considering we have the internet now. Therefore, our parents want to see us do something they weren't able to do in their life time or live up to their achievements. Everyone has a different situation so I can't speak on the behalf of anyone else.
ReplyDeleteHowever, being that in my family I'm the first generation born in america it does put more pressure on me. Thats because everything my parents had gone through is to give me what I have now, so I can't just throw away everything they have worked for.
On the other hand, I do not think extreme parenting is effective. When parents act this way towards their children, I believe it makes everything more difficult. Parents should guide their children towards a successful life and one where their child is happy. Yet, I don't think the parents who chose to parent in this way is out to get their child. It really does come down to their parents wanting what is best for their children.
I feel like parents only push their children to do their best because it's either they want their kids to have a great future or they want their children to achieve the dreams they didn't get. A parent's expectations are very high because they might thinks it's the best way for their kids to listen to them.
ReplyDeleteExtreme parenting is not effective because some children a very defiant and will not listen due to the feeling of wanting to be free and to do whatever they want. Some parents push their kids too far because some extreme parenting include threats and worries for their future so their children are far too unstable to even live anymore.
I believe parents push their child to be the best they can be because they didn't have the same opportunities when they were growing up.
ReplyDeleteExtreme parenting is not an effective way to raise a child because it puts so much pressure on the child. Although these parents may have the best intentions in mind, they shouldn't be so hard with their child. Instead they should be caring and guide them toward the right paths in life.
I believe that parents in the present seem to have higher expectations now then back then because today there's the internet and more opportunities.
ReplyDeleteNowadays, there's also more demand and pressure. Our parents want to make sure we do well as a means to hopefully lessen that demand and pressure. Which is why they have higher expectations.
As for extreme parenting, I don't believe that that method is very effective at all. Parents are there to guide and give advice to their children. Parents aren't meant to be so controlling and overbearing in their children's lives. My parents have always told me this is my life, they've lived theirs, so it's up to me what I do.
Extreme parenting only adds to their child's stress and anxiety. It can very well damage their kid's mental health and may drive them to end their own life. These are only some of the reasons as to why extreme parenting isn't good.
I think extreme parenting in many cases is effective in the results it has with children. Most commonly the idea of extreme parenting is closely associated with the Asian community within America where they push their children to become doctors, lawyers, or engineers. From my personal experience understanding others in my family and myself I see that extreme parenting does have it's merits because it brings order to the household but also pushes a child toward making good choices in life that will eventually bring them to financial stability. I'm not saying that all the stress and anxiety is good for a child but if we live in a world where we baby children and teenagers till they're adults they never achieve anything in life and that's why extreme parenting at times works.
ReplyDeleteIt is true that nowadays parents are pushing us way too much. From personal experience and hearing from others. They only push us so hard because they want us to succeed and to do way better than themselves. Over parenting can also cause the child to be pushed away and always worrying about what they would say next. Although sometimes it does help, but most of the time it's just stressful.
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